Date of Birth: February 20, 1983
Date of Death: May 24, 2021
Brian Matthew Ward, born February 20, 1983, loving husband and father, chose to end his journey on this earth Monday, May 24, 2021. He is survived by his wife; Rhonda Ward (34); daughter Emma Ward (11); his father and step-mother Dennis and Svetlana Ward; his mother and step-father Susan and Joe Cooper; and many more friends and family. Brian, with his unforgettable mega-watt smile and infectious presence, could light the darkest of rooms. He was adored by most who met him and if not, they soon came to adore him after his perseverance. He was logical, thoughtful, loyal, rough around the edges but kind and tenacious with a positive and calming spirit. He loved spending time with his wife and daughter, custom knives, spending hours upgrading his beloved Harley, and had spent the past 3 years traveling across the United States homeschooling his daughter while his wife pursued her career in travel nursing - finally settling down in Phoenix and calling it home. Brian lived with intense passion, integrity, courage, compassion and fiercely loved his girls. He was a special breed of human - loved simplicity and lived a minimalist lifestyle. His love was not for things or objects, but for people and their stories. The epitome of a protector, he was one of the most dedicated, selfless, hardworking and accomplished young fathers, whose ultimate desire was to give his wife and daughter the life they deserved, for they were precious to him. There wasn't a soul on Earth he didn't have a smile to offer or an interest in knowing. In his eyes, everyone had a story to tell and he had an ear to listen. A cherished and devoted husband, father, son, nephew, cousin and friend who was loved so very deeply. He was striking, in every form and facet. Brian left an immeasurable impression on every soul he touched. He was simply happy, genuine, forgiving, full of positivity and light and he spread all he had to those around him. Little did any of us know, he didn't save enough light for himself. No one can answer the question, why? Brian did not share any demons within, we did not hear insurmountable and all-consuming pain. This realization that someone could so successfully minimize his own pain each day, as a pillar of strength, has left all who knew him shaken to the core. It is impossible to prepare for the harsh reality of losing a loved one, especially a husband, father, or child, at far too young of an age. To lose Brian in this manner is unfathomable. It is a finality difficult to accept. It has left behind a desperate longing to understand the rationale behind an illness no one knew to be present. His death has marred us in significant, painful and permanent ways. Suicide is a complicated end and compounds with an array of feelings and stigma. One person taking their own life every 40 seconds is an epidemic of massive proportion, leaving no family untouched. The ensuing recovery for families must find a balance between the crushing punches of abandonment, betrayal, rage, doubt, shame, shock, blame, fear, sorrow, loss, guilt, regret and confusion and the light-filled promises of presence, love and joy through our memories and the legacy left behind. It has left us utterly breathless. The desperation, pain and despair Brian must have endured, to feel it best to leave his most beloved wife, daughter, and his family is unimaginable and heartbreaking. Somehow, Brian believed we could live without him. As much as that confidence is resented, we will draw strength from his faith in us to carry on. We will carry Brian's legacy with us - his determination, intelligence, strength and warmth, as well as his fears, his flaws, and his untimely death. We will carry his wholeness. We will see him in the face and mannerism of his beautiful daughter as she grows. We will heal, we will persevere, we will laugh, we will cry, we will thrive, but life will never be the same without our amazingly wonderful Brian. He is sorely missed. We are a family who lives with positivity and disappointment, sadness and love, trials and triumphs, laughter and tears; we remember, we tell stories, we pray, we hope, and most of all... we love. This silent epidemic is catastrophic. If talking about it, exposing it, shouting it from the rooftops, will help even one person find a way to talk about their pain, a difference can and must be made. To help others understand, we much reach out to family members, friends and strangers. Show kindness, an openness to talk and, more importantly, to listen, to see, to hear without judgement. If only to save a family from the pain and anguish of losing a loved one through bringing awareness to this tragic and senseless loss of life, then our beloved Brian's death will not be in vain. Save a life, we cannot afford to lose another light. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to the GoFundMe account for Brian's wife and daughter. https://gofund.me/515a7c90
Friends and family may pay condolences at a memorial service which will be held, Tuesday June 8, 2021 from 4-5pm at Best Funeral Services West Valley Chapel, 9380 West Peoria Avenue Peoria, AZ 85345.